The 10 most common mistakes in the postpartum period to help you better cope with a difficult and at the same time intense stage, especially for the mother.
The first recommendation is that you do not push yourself too hard during these first weeks, since it is normal that you need a period of adaptation to recover physically and emotionally from the important change that you have suffered, on the one hand, physically and on the other in your day-to-day.
During pregnancy, you are not bothered by extra kilos, because you have a very good reason for having them, but after giving birth you may be overcome by a feeling of discomfort with your physical appearance. In postpartum recovery, our genetics play an important role and not all women recover at the same speed. Many times we obsess over the time it will take to shed those kilos and we expect results faster than can be achieved in a healthy way.
Another piece of advice would be “Divide and conquer”. That's a total success: divide household chores and chores with your baby. This way it will be easier to find the necessary balance between your previous life as a woman, your life as a couple, and your new life as a mother.
In the postpartum period you will have to find the balance between your previous life as a woman and your new life as a mother. Don't try to reach everything, it's not necessary.
Another very common mistake is to feel bad for not feeling completely good, completely happy, however, this is something very common and totally understandable. After giving birth, the mother is very tired, a very important hormonal change occurs and, in addition, life, as it had been until that moment, changes, and all of this requires a period of adaptation, requiring rest, patience and not to put the burden of guilt on ourselves for not being full.
Love yourself Mom, respect yourself, and give yourself time!
Don't feel bad for not being 100% happy.
During the postpartum period, our mood starts at -10. The hormonal change that occurs after childbirth means that you are not at 100%. In addition, we must add the usual tiredness that every mother has in the first days after giving birth. The wear and tear of childbirth and in some cases may be anemic, which increases the initial fatigue. The absence of restorative hours of sleep means that you do not fully enjoy these first days of motherhood. Rest as much as you can and gain strength to be able to enjoy as much as your body and mind allow.
The kilos we have gained in 40 weeks cannot be lost at a stroke
You must understand that the first 40 days postpartum are for recovery and from that moment on you can begin to make small gestures that will help you gradually recover your previous appearance. A healthy and balanced diet is important whether you are breastfeeding or if your baby is artificially breastfed. Once you have passed 40 days postpartum, you can begin to have a more active life, avoiding impact sports (such as running, and CrossFit...) You can take advantage of walking briskly with your baby, swimming, spinning...
Why do celebrities recover in 4 weeks and I don't?
Our first piece of advice is that comparisons were never good and we are going to tell you why. For example, a model usually spends several hours a day taking care of her figure before, during pregnancy, and after childbirth. It must be taken into account that her physical appearance is part of her job and many of them dedicate many hours a day to her recovery, something that ordinary mothers cannot do. Additionally, if you have played sports during pregnancy, your recovery may be faster than if you have not. Remember that in your recovery you must have your own pace.
If you breastfeed you can eat whatever you want because you will lose weight.
There is a very clear fact in this regard and that is that producing milk generates a caloric expenditure of about 500 Kcal per day. This does not mean that we no longer need to play sports because we burn calories with breastfeeding, nor does it mean that we can eat whatever we want. It is true that breastfeeding generates extra caloric expenditure that does not exist with artificial breastfeeding, and that the fat in breast milk comes from fat deposited in certain areas of the mother. But if, instead of having a healthy diet, I abuse foods rich in sugar, I enter a vicious circle that is not advisable, since you will generate more insulin, which will make you feel more hungry, so you can already imagine what you are going to do. Next… Eat again!
The logical thing is to lose weight while breastfeeding if your diet is similar to what you had before getting pregnant. Finally, I want to tell you that, if your diet is correct, but you are gaining weight and you are also very tired, you should tell your doctor because they may need to do an analysis to make sure there is no endocrine problem called Postpartum Thyroiditis, which is inflammation. of the thyroid gland that can occur after childbirth. It usually begins with a transient hyperthyroidism where weight is lost but which subsequently progresses to hypothyroidism where symptoms such as fatigue and weight gain are associated.
“Skin-to-skin” contact is vital, but you must keep an important recommendation in mind.
Skin-to-skin contact is beneficial for many reasons. On the one hand, it will help us with the baby's thermoregulation, calm crying, and help him better adapt to the change that birth represents for him. But as you already know, sudden infant death syndrome was considerably reduced when babies began sleeping on their backs. For this reason, it is not recommended that the baby sleep skin-to-skin during the night, since we are also going to sleep and we will not be able to monitor her condition. My recommendation is that skin-to-skin contact be during the day, it should be done by both the mother and the father and it is recommended that we be seated or semi-upright. In this way, although the baby is face down on our chest, he will be more upright and not completely lying down, And we will also be awake to be able to monitor the baby's good condition. Each couple must decide where they want their baby to sleep, but it is important that they do so on their back as much as possible.
The importance of effective communication in a couple.
When we decide to experience motherhood as a couple, it is important to work on two-way communication after the birth of the baby. A very common mistake is to focus all our attention on the new member of the family and neglect our relationship. Balance in the couple is vital for everything to flow normally. In many cases it is difficult for parents to get into the dynamic a little bit, one of the reasons is because they have not been 40 weeks pregnant like we have been, and if we are not able to talk things over in time it can cause a bigger problem. Our recommendation is that you talk about things normally with your partner., from tranquility. Explain how you feel, if you think it can help you in any way. It is important that he feels useful and that in the same way that we must tell him what he is not doing well, we must remind him that he is a key piece for the balance of your new life.
Why do mothers find it difficult to delegate correctly?
We are the first generation of working moms since in many cases our mothers stopped working for years to raise us. This implies that there has been a change in the way of understanding motherhood and fatherhood and now in homes things are divided for both members of the family. That is why we insist on the need to establish good two-way communication from the beginning, as I mentioned in the previous point. Weekly planning is a great ally in our homes since it allows us to divide tasks with our baby, but it is important that what we delegate we do correctly. Many mothers find it very difficult to delegate everything related to their baby and you will realize that it is true. But it is a temporary sensation that must be overcome if you work outside the home since you won't be able to do everything alone. You must overcome that negative feeling that we sometimes have of“Bad mothers. ”
Asking for help is not synonymous with not doing things right.
Sometimes women think we can do everything and I was once told that to raise a baby you need a “tribe”. That expression is very nice, think about who is part of “Your tribe”, your friends, your family, your partner… You can't do everything alone and that doesn't mean you're not doing it well. Surely you have people around you who are willing to help you, although perhaps they don't know how. Show them the way so that you can all enjoy this new stage.
Your main goal should be to find your balance.
“In order to take care of others, you must first take care of yourself.” It is important that you understand that, although you have just become a mother, you are still a woman and that if you have decided to experience motherhood as a couple, you also have a travel companion ... When you find your balance, it will be time to look forward and enjoy all the facets of Your life, and without a doubt that of being a mother, will become the most important. You must have confidence and knowledge so that you can enjoy motherhood without fear or trepidation. Congratulations mom!
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